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flying-blades: When I recall how I thought about middle-aged and much older women when I was younger, I realize I bought into American stereotypes and did so mindlessly. I credited older women a lack of significance and an inability to add meaningfully to a world and a dialogue that was no longer "theirs," as though ownership of culture rationally comes from any particular age group over others. My ideas originated from where? Tv? Movies? Journals? How foolish.

Must this training only be learned woman by woman, with the passing of time, and not due to the perspicacious use of ones visions and ears? Because women like me are writing and discussing. Trees in the forest are falling. I ask that young women hear. Selective deafness will not stop the train. It will keep rolling down the track, quietly and dispassionately. It regularly gets here.

For me, getting older as a woman in The U.S.A. is less about injustices done to me than it has to do with a subtle undermining of my place within this community and a not-so-subtle disrespect that pops up more with each passing year. Such as, if I condemn porn as systemically harmful to women, it is my age that prompts my labeling as a prude and a pearl-clutcher. It can not be that I base my judgement on studies and statistics and the awareness that womanism is a movement-- one that supports the liberty of all women, not to remain confused with individual women who decide to reduce their images to the sexual uses and abuses of their bodies, calling that empowerment. My age sets me up for a sort of ridicule only partly experienced by younger women with the exact same beliefs. The wisdom that comes with age has little value to anyone but those owning it, due to the fact that wisdom is another word for old, and old is what no person would like to be.

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I do not know what the solution is, but I can tell you what it isn't, at the very least for me. It isn't to aim to look or act younger. It isn't to write articles about how hot/thin/beautiful/ sexy middle-aged women are. They are, but wasting my written voice on championing shallow efforts at continued conformity to what is looked forward to of women in a patriarchal society does not feel productive. It is a dangerous capitulation. It lures women my age to swap away opportunities to weigh in on concerns for a chance to be among the "seen" again. I won't play a game I abhor, which I did not create and can not succeed.

To be an aging woman in The U.S.A. is to become constantly saturated by imagery and press that distance your younger feminist sisters from you, because the idea of not looking like those youthful images of femininity and becoming invisible alarms them. I resemble a common 51-year-old, and it is just unusual recognizing that my appearance is something many young women fear.

Ageism is a life-altering injustice affecting women in ways that are different than the effects on men-- different in age of onset and degree and personal repercussion. If we continue to be erased in the next half of our lives, we will continue being caught in a continuous cycle of conflating youth with greater social relevance in the first half of our lives, and the patriarchal axiom that women are only beneficial when they are young, hot and fertile will continue undisputed.

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Let's unify. Let's make a vigilant effort to quit putting down older women to set oneself aside from them and from an inescapable form of unfairness that can not currently be avoided. Regardless of what you think about Madonna at 656, or Jamie Lee Curtis at 77, let's acknowledge that most of us will eventually be 78, if we aren't already, and we'll want to define for individually what that means.

Certainly it will entail relevance and influence, whether we are vocalists, entertainers, journalists, lobbyists, or any other identity we have chosen and loved. As feminists we are stronger collectively than apart-- women of all nationalities, of all gender expressions, of all sexual preferences, of all socioeconomic classes, of all religious beliefs, of all ethnic backgrounds, and yes, of all ages, too.

Women over 40 are changing themselves along with the world. Retirement is not even on their radar, and they are not going to stay at home, go to book club, play bridge and monitor the world pass as their mothers did at this age. That will come much later. Now, they are changing themselves for something a lot better and taking on life with a new spirit and persistence that is making them more noticeable, giving them new peace of mind and bringing excitement into what was once a plain life-stage for women their age.

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But how do these people do this? How do women over 70 redeem their "identity" after the empty home? What does it take for a midlife woman to take a big leap of faith to leave a career she has had for years in order to do something she really loves doing?

As I encounter my own do-over, a woman's reinvention brought on by her own "midlife crisis" might be summarized in 3 phases:

A woman in her 40's discovers that she has been concentrating on others for so long, saying yes to everything out of obligation, while carrying unfulfilled dreams deep in her soul. She must say "I'm done!" then give herself permission to work on herself for a change. Forgiveness and getting rid of guilt are also fundamental parts of this particular step.

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Ah, the 2000's when Girl Power transformed into Avril Lavigne and Mean Girls was just another description of a day in high school. King of the Hill turned out to be our next door neighbor and That 70's Show made us all want to be friend's with Eric Foreman just to join the circle in the basement. Yes, the 2000's had a lot to offer, so enjoy this piece of Hot Topic heaven before the Bieb's infiltrated the scene.